I’ve been feeling down about our flat recently, maybe it is constantly seeing incredible spaces on Instagram and Pinterest and getting disappointed knowing our flat will never have beautiful timber floors or even a vintage dining table with mismatched chairs scavenged from charity shops. It’s not that our home is a bad place to live, it was just never my dream. When we were home hunting, I had my sites set on an adorable little one bedroom house with a conservatory, free of all the building confinements of a flat and just damn adorable but my boyfriend refused to even consider the place as he couldn’t see past the dank green carpet and lack of central heating, I think my love for this place, has left me with a sort of disdain towards our boring, featureless flat with it’s awful veneer kitchen and weirdly placed lighting points. I know I am one seriously lucky girl and I know there are worse problems to have and believe me, there is more going on in my life than worrying about our flooring but that doesn’t mean I can’t have days where I just want to rip every single photo off the walls and start again.
I’m sure I’m not the only person that goes through waves of disliking their space, so I’m going to share a few of the things I have done/plan on doing to help re-frame the way I see my own home.
Make Small Changes
If like me you can’t afford to or don’t have the time/energy to complete the big jobs then make the most of the little things you can change, for instance if you hate your bedroom why not treat yourself to some new, cosy bed linen? Go for something totally different and you never know it may completely transform your room. You don’t need to completely re-design your home, just a little update will make all the difference and if you play it right will make you smile at your home again when you walk through the front door.
A quick de-clutter can transform your mindset and refresh your space, it’s incredibly tempting to throw money at all of your problems but this temporary fix won’t leave you feeling as content as shedding unnecessary pieces. Without realising, a lot of us build up a vast collection of junk, have a proper look around your home, do you ave a stack of magazines under your coffee table that you will never pick up again? Do you keep a cupboard full of cracked crockery? Blitz through everything that you no longer need or love and I’m sure you will feel far more content than if you just added to your collection of unnecessary goods – that’s not to render my first point as invalid, we all deserve little home updates from time to time and once you’ve cleared away all your chipped mugs you are going to need something to drink your morning coffee from.
Step Away From The Instagram
If you feel overwhelmed by beautiful homes then walk away, switch off your phone and pop out to a friends house, seeing a real, lived in home will make you feel much better about your own abode because although Pinterest might not show it, real homes have loo roll and a bottle of bleach in the bathroom just like you. Alternatively, have a browse of Rightmove, if nothing else it will give you a giggle. I recently saw one home on Rightmove which featured the same commode (portable toilet chair) in every single shot, there were 14 photos from the kitchen to the bedroom, the only explanation was that the photographer took it round with them! It can be so fun and cathartic to see how real people decorate their homes, it’s really inspiring to see people do exactly what they want with their spaces without worrying if their life size sarcophagus is in style or whether their red floral curtains clash with their green striped carpet.
So, I’ve finally got my bratty little rant out there and now I’m ready to put a few things into action in order to make me love my space again, I might even throw up some Christmas lights because if that wont make my place feel like a home again, I don’t know what will!